My favorite part about being a woman is having an innate & shared understanding with other women; & to me, self discovery is simply living life & learning from its moments, good & bad. Taking note of how you react to these moments can teach you a lot about your inner self.
What’s your favorite part about being a woman?
What does motherhood mean to you?
Motherhood is a beautiful struggle. It’s giving every ounce of yourself and never expecting anything in return. My daughter will grow up taking me for granted because, indeed, my love for her is 100% granted! :)
Motherhood is also incredibly primal, a human is grown in your body and when they leave your body they still feel a part of you.
Every single night before I go to bed, I can’t resist my primal urge to go into my daughter’s room and smell her, taking in all of her scent. I remember as a kid my mum did that to me too.
On Your Relationship
What was the best memory during pregnancy?
What is the relationship dynamic between you and your child & what is a topic that you’re trying to destigmatize or break taboo of generationally?
Pregnancy was the first time in life that I actively slowed down, physically and mentally. For me it was a beautiful moment of connection to myself and to my baby, and I fed both of us so lovingly throughout!
My relationship with my daughter, who is currently almost three years old, is at times beautiful and adorable and at times incredibly frustrating! Haha! I do my best to talk to her about her Vietnamese culture and celebrate it. I want her to grow up proud of her background as this was not my own experience growing up in a white-centric society.
On Sexuality & Post-Partum
How did motherhood evolve or affect your relationship to your sexuality? How have you pleased yourself postpartum?
Honestly in the early days of motherhood when you’re recovering from birth and breastfeeding sex and self pleasure (at least for me) is the last thing you want to do or think about!
I think it’s good to be kind of yourself and not follow any social expectations on where you should be in your postpartum sexual journey. The flower will bloom again, it’s biologically inevitable! I get a massage, as often as I can!