"I think self discovery means to be able to build your own identity however you are comfortable, however you feel the best. Discovery has a lot to do with self-love, self-exploration and patience. It takes a while and we're changing all the time. So every day I feel like I'm discovering myself and I'm finding things about myself that I didn't think before. Actually getting to know you is the biggest thing that you can ever do. It's the most interesting thing to know you and know your brain and how it works. You'll never get bored of knowing yourself."
What does self-discovery mean to you?
Can you describe your relationship to your sexuality?
"I think everyone has a different relationship to their bodies. A lot of it is shaped after cultural references, and how you grew up; this impacts how you see your body. It took a while for me to get in terms with my body and my own sexuality because of how I was raised, which was in sort of a bubble. This affected how I related to my sexuality and how I experienced my sexuality with men.
How do you give yourself pleasure?
"Pleasure is important to me because sometimes in Western civilization or Western culture, pleasure is or was attached to something bad or evil. I grew up, in an enviroment where pleasure was always tied with sin. So I think pleasure should be those little rewards that we give to ourselves when we accomplish something or when we finish a day; or just the pleasure of doing something you like without any other motivations, just because it is what you do and what feels right for you."
"It's a lot of compromising. I think it's very important that when you're with someone you give to your body, and give yourself moments to center your body. Especially if I don't know you physically. I give to myself more, often than I ask other's to give. I think we are all so attached devices, computers and all this stuff that we forget that we have a body, and that we exist as a physical form first. We forget that our body needs things and needs to be taken care of and it's very important to take care of your body sexually and physically and just give it what it deserves and needs.
How do you ask for what you want?
What advice would you have for other LGBTQIA+ members early in their self-discovery?
"It takes a minute to become who you want to become. The journey is long but you have to trust yourself every step of the way. When you look back and see where you we're and what you've become, you truly see the evolution and it's worth it in the end. Especially because we don't have a set path like a Heteronormative path of living does. We're able to not have those constraints and build our whole life based on our own rules and our own ideas of being."